“Hi Stephen, Is that woman saying with her example that every time someone ghosts someone without explanation it incurs negative karma? It happens a lot. Especially on dating apps. Like on Tinder. People will chat for a while and then if they don’t feel like meeting, they just drop it without telling the person why. Or sometimes they meet and don’t feel like meeting again so they drop it. Am I incurring negative karma every time I don’t explain to a match why I don’t want to meet? Or meet again? What if the real reason, like I’m not attracted to him, could hurt his feelings? Will I incur negative karma if I don’t tell him that? Thanks, Brandi“
She wasn’t clear in the example about how long they dated, what she told him, if she led him on, and other details about the situation. She didn’t specify, but it’s likely their interaction progressed beyond just a few dates.
Ghosting, slang for disappearing without explanation, is a common part of dating and may not incur negative karma, depending upon the circumstances. Based on over 25 years of past life regressions and researching NDEs, I don’t believe ghosting someone on a dating app, someone you’ve never even met face-to-face, creates negative karma. Even ghosting someone with whom you’ve had a few dates wouldn’t seem to, unless you led him or her on, and depending upon the situation and existing karma between you two.
The reason she returned to this situation in her NDE review on the other side wasn’t due to ghosting, but because of her pattern of not telling the truth when she was clear about how she felt. She needed to work on having the courage to express how she felt instead of avoiding confrontation by running away or pretending confusion.
Did she really break that guy’s heart by running away without an explanation, or did he break his own heart by falling for someone and moving too quickly? Did she really incur negative karma from that?
We don’t know for sure, though since she didn’t intentionally hurt him, she may not have. However, if she wasn’t upfront when she had an opportunity to do so, it’s possible her soul will chose a future lifetime and situations where she’ll have the opportunity to express how she feels in order to pass that test.
She wasn’t clear about how she felt about him, but if she hadn’t been interested in him like he was in her, what’s the best way to deal with that without hurting someone’s feelings? How do you tell someone you’re not attracted to them or interested? One way is to simply say that you’re flattered by their interest, but you don’t feel that kind of connection with them. If they won’t take no for an answer or are too focussed on their agenda to listen, you’ve already made it clear how you feel and don’t owe them any further explanation.
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