Premarital sex is forbidden in Islam. In an attempt to avoid it and being shunned and judged by the majority of their society, some couples in Indonesia choose to get married first, and then get to know each other. Others don’t want to spend time dating someone without a clear goal; they want to be married now and permanently.
This is known as “taaruf” and there areeven apps for it. Taaruf isn’t arranged marriage since it’s usually something couples do on their own.
Can you imagine marrying someone you barely know? Or, like in the case of arranged marriage sometimes, haven’t even met yet?
Arranged marriages can turn out well. The fortunate ones are happy together. Until the 18th century, most marriages were arranged, and the practice is still popular in some countries.
But too often the woman had no say about the arranged relationship. What if there was no physical attraction, or he was someone she wouldn’t even want to talk to let alone live with for the rest of her life?
If the idea of an arranged marriage sounds terrifying to you, you have a fear of being trapped in a bad relationship and, or you have an excessive love of freedom (nodding my head to all three), you may have experienced one or more lifetimes in which you were forced to marry someone (like I was), and it probably didn’t work out well for you.
Even if you don’t consciously remember negative experiences in past lives, your subconscious does so they could still be influencing your present life. I’ve found the most stressful parts of life usually have past life ties.
Asking for spiritual help in and out of meditation or past life regression can be helpful to uncover and let go of past life traumas, which will also reduce the negative influence on your current life. So will acceptance, forgiveness, and unconditional love, which most of us are here to practice. Try expressing all three in response to a conflict you’re currently experiencing and notice how your perception of the problem begins to change.
Copyright © 2021 Stephen Petullo
Marriage Before Dating and Past Life Fears
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