Too many singles are waiting for the right person to appear and make them feel fulfilled.
They might feel satisfied in the early stages of a new relationship, but eventually it wears off and they find themselves back where they started.
There is something you can do to avoid this problem, and it’ll also make you stand out. Single and want an edge? Do this: Make an effort to be the best version of yourself.
You are much more likely to meet compatible matches when you are making the most of yourself (inside and out).
Think about it– how are your best love (and friendship and career) matches supposed to recognize the best version of you if you’re masquerading as someone else?
When you’re not the best version of yourself, like in the following examples, you will attract subpar matches and, or feel unfulfilled in a relationship:
— Playing small and safe, focussing too much on approval from others, instead of living your life the way you want to live it and following your passions and dreams.
— Letting yourself go. Occasional exercise and eating in “moderation” isn’t enough. You must ramp it up and be on a quest to be the best version of yourself ever. No excuses. Try subliminal MP3s to give you an extra push.
— Hanging on to addictions of any kind instead of kicking them for good.
— Hanging on to anger, regret, or guilt. Let go of the past, embrace where you are, and be excited about the future.
Unfortunately, most people are so busy working and surviving, just keeping their heads above water, they don’t have much time left for self-reflection and self-improvement.
You can take little steps, even when you’re feeling overwhelmed, such as the following.
— Start with a 5-10 minute daily mediation. Ask for help from God, your Higher-Self, Angels of the Light, or to whomever you prey to help you focus, relax, and become aware of any insight that would help you at this time.
— Take a two minute break every day, breath deeply and ask your spiritual helpers for guidance. For example, “What’s the next best step for my self-improvement?” Or, “What would most help me to realize at this time?” With practice you’ll perceive insight and signs. Ask for help as often as you’d like; spiritual help is unlimited and they’re always happy to assist if you ask.
— Search online for a healthy or healthier alternative to a food you know isn’t serving you. For example, I love pancakes, but the traditional versions with wheat, white sugar, and processed vegetable oil, and even the gluten-free mixes, make me feel horrible. Instead, I make a fermented recipe from The Healthy Home Economist that tastes great yet doesn’t give me a food hangover. In addition, I use unrefined (raw) coconut oil instead of olive oil, ghee (clarified butter) instead of butter, and a small amount of real maple syrup instead of the artificial version.
— Say “no” to something you don’t really want to do, and instead do something that makes you happy.
Copyright © 2015 Stephen Petullo
