An Unhappy Love Life is Not Your Fault

Telling you that an unhappy love life is not your fault might seem to contradict how I always say that due to the law of karma, you must take responsibility for everything in your life.

However, even if you do everything right, your love life may not go the way you hoped, and bad love life experiences aren’t always karmic payback.

So many people suffer and think they failed because their love life didn’t go the way they hoped and planned.

It’s easy to take your bad love life experiences personally, to think there’s something wrong with you, especially when everyone around you is seemingly living a wonderful love life.

Sometimes it is your fault due to things you did or said.

But generally, your love life timing and fate dictates how your love life unfolds, even if you do everything right.

Danielle, a sweet, fit, attractive, and successful 41 year-old, seems to be an ideal catch and has no problem attracting dates. But all her partners have had major problems (drug abuse, cheating, possessiveness, dishonesty, loosing interest quickly) and none of her relationships have lasted more than a couple years.

Many people say her problem is choosing the wrong people. This might be partly true, but even if she was extremely careful and had help in finding a “good one,” her love life still would have unfolded in a similar way due to the root cause: fate. She was meant to have those experiences for soul growth and learning.

Sure, she can make the most of her fate with her free will, but there’s no way around the major events that are fated in our lives.

I’m sorry if this is a downer, but I’d rather be brutally honest with you now, which will help you avoid love life misery later.

Does this mean you should just give up?

No, because love life timing changes frequently, there are good experiences even along not so great paths, and bad love life experiences often occur so you’re more prepared for better love life experiences in the future.

Try not to take it personally when things don’t go your way.

Likewise, people who have wonderful love lives may not want to be so quick to pat themselves on the back. Yes, they may have done and continue to do all the right things to make their current life success possible (unless it’s illusion-based and things are not as rosy as they appear), but they’ve had the winds of fate at their back; it was meant to be that way.

Boast all you want about how many years you’ve been together, but even if you’ve earned the right to do so through sacrifice and much effort, fate was a major part of it.

Now that you know an unhappy love life is not your fault, I hope you can learn to accept the past and where you are now, and be open to new and exciting experiences in the future.

Copyright © 2014 Stephen Petullo

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