Have you noticed that everyone seemed to assume that Tiger’s marriage was fine except for his cheating? We have no idea what their marriage was like and how she treated him. We have no idea if she married him for love or not or how she behaved after they were married. We have no idea how Tiger felt about his marriage or his wife before he cheated, and there are other forms of infidelity (http://www.holisticmakeover.com/April25th2008.htm), besides cheating, that they both may be guilty of.
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Tiger Wood’s public apology may be part of his therapy, but the main reason seems to be to save what is left of his image and rebuild his career. Now he’s created a jail of a life for himself that he’ll traipse obediently through until his wife leaves him or he takes his power back and accepts that he’s not the monogamous type.
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Here’s what I would have liked to hear Tiger say in his public statement (though in this country we live in, where hypocritical, puritanical standards prevail, it wouldn’t have helped his career):
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“As you can tell from my reported actions, strict, long-term monogamy really isn’t for me. My wife knew this when I married her, but we both thought I could give it a try since I wanted the traditional arrangement of a wife and kids. I did try to be strictly monogamous and succeeded for a time, but with all the money and power I have, and the innate desire for variety, do you really think I’d be happy with that arrangement for the rest of my life? That’s a bit like expecting a nun to enjoy a swinging lifestyle. Based on the 60% cheating rate of married people, do you really think strict, long-term monogamy is realistic for most people?”
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“My biggest mistake was agreeing to a traditional marriage. Frankly, I love sexual variety, and I will continue to enjoy it. However, from this point on, I am adapting the policies of safe-sex only and honesty with everyone I’m involved with. Since I will be safe and honest, there really isn’t anything to judge me for, unless you insist on having a 1950s, sanctimonious mindset. Furthermore, if you don’t like the way I live my life, it doesn’t matter, because it’s my life, not yours.”
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“My biggest mistake was agreeing to a traditional marriage. Frankly, I love sexual variety, and I will continue to enjoy it. However, from this point on, I am adapting the policies of safe-sex only and honesty with everyone I’m involved with. Since I will be safe and honest, there really isn’t anything to judge me for, unless you insist on having a 1950s, sanctimonious mindset. Furthermore, if you don’t like the way I live my life, it doesn’t matter, because it’s my life, not yours.”
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Only in America would people expect Tiger to be strictly monogamous. People in more sexually honest places of the world, such as parts of Europe, are probably laughing at us.
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Copyright (c) 2010 Stephen Petullo
7 Responses
Well-written article. I have a few questions to throw out:
1. Do you think Tiger is truly remorseful or only publicly apologizing because he got busted?
2. Do you believe he is a sex addict?
3. What do you think he should do now? (I say just play golf!)
I have noticed that his wife actually appears happy in her recent photos. Perhaps she is relieved to have him out of her life. She does not seem to be playing a victim’s role, in my opinion. Quite the opposite, in fact.
Let’s see what happens to his image and his career in the months to come.
Good questions! Only Tiger knows if he is truly remorseful. I don’t think he’s a sex addict. Give any young, good looking guy with a healthy sexual appetite money and power and he’s going take advantage of that! I agree- just play golf.
I don’t see his wife as a victim. At all. She knew exactly who she was marrying before she agreed to it.
Tiger Woods definitely could talk an outstanding game in his media meeting regarding becoming far more respectful to the game of golf, although his actions spoke much louder than his words the moment he skipped the Arnold Palmer Invitational. Tiger could have generated a lot of good will by simply participating in this tournament. Arnie would have succesfully done anything which he might have for helping show Tiger in the best light, but instead Tiger makes a decision to discount one of the legends of this sport to do his individual thing. Best of luck in the Masters, Mister Woods. Congratulations towards Ernie Els, and I am hoping you do incredibly well on Augusta.
I am happy that Tiger Woods is back playing. It makes the sport exciting all over again.
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Most guys wanna be like Tiger Woods 😉
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