It’s understandable if you don’t want to make the first move out of a fear of being embarrassed or rejected. But it’s really not your right to know what another person is thinking unless they show or tell you.
Sometimes you’ll have to take a risk and make it clear how you feel. If they don’t feel the same, at least you won’t waste anymore time and can move on.
Even if you ask the person directly, out of politeness or shyness you may not get a direct answer.
Here’s what you can do instead: Meditate on whether it’s a good idea for you to make it clear you are interested. You may not get insight right away, but if you pay attention, you will get signs in the following days and weeks.
If you don’t get any indication about how they feel, letting go can work like magic. It may not be easy, but once you detach from your desire to be with the person, it’s much more likely that the situation will become more clear to you and what is meant to be will unfold naturally.
Copyright (c) 2010 Stephen Petullo