Dear Stephen,
For the last six months I’ve seen this guy at my gym and I can’t stop thinking about him. From the moment I first saw him I felt so drawn to him. He seems perfect for me but I don’t know if I’m his type. Could this be love? I feel like I’ve known him before. He seems so familiar! Past life? We’ve never spoken and I’m not sure if he notices me, but every time I see him my heart races and I can barely bring myself to even look his way. Could we have been lovers in a past life? What should I do? Thanks, Pat.
Dear Pat,
It could be love, but you’ll never know unless you talk to him. If you continue to obsess about him, you might miss someone else, who might be more compatible, because your attention is elsewhere, focused on something that might turn out to be a dead end. Do yourself a favor and start by smiling at him or saying hello to gauge his reaction and get him to notice you. If you do nothing, you’ll just torture yourself with “what could be.”
If it’s not love, it might be just infatuation.
http://www.urbandictionary.com defines infatuation as the following:
1) Infatuation is liking everything about a person, and seeing them as perfect. you do not see their flaws, just overlook them and act like they are perfect. Not to be confused as love in which you see their flaws and just accept them.
2) All-encompassing, gut-wrenching, soul-draining activity that only requires the active involvement of one individual: the obsessor. A second individual is required for the peripheral need of providing the obsessor with an object of needless, unappreciated, possibly unwanted, often unwarranted affection. The second individual may or may not be aware of his/her peripheral involvement, and may or may not be willing to be peripherally involved: the object’s awareness and/or willingness of being an object of desire is of no consequence to the obsessor.
Current life situations often mirror past life situations. If this is more than just a case of your mind picking a romantic target to focus on (which most everyone does, so don’t feel bad) and you have known him before, things will play out as destined provided you use your free will to initiate them. If he’s unavailable now, he probably was then too. If he’s available and interested, whatever will be, both “good” and “bad,” is karmic, and you can react to that with your free will. If he’s not interested, perhaps you rejected him in a past life, but whatever you do, avoid dwelling on him. Instead, tell yourself (often if necessary) to let go, move on, have hope and look on the bright side; you have many soul mates and you are now one step closer to a more compatible and fulfilling one.
Copyright © 2012 Stephen Petullo
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