It’s easier than ever to meet people online, but quantity doesn’t always mean quality. If you’re not meeting the types you want, try the following 12 tips to get better online dating results.
1) Try a different site or app.
2) Ask a friend to give you feedback about your profile. What messages are you sending with your words and pictures? Change anything that doesn’t match what you want to project and attract.
3) Be honest about what you really want. Is it a sugar daddy? A wealthy spouse? Marriage and children? Great sex without marriage? Polyamory? A platonic relationship? Friends with benefits? Don’t try to conform to what society expects of you if it doesn’t feel right.
4) Examine your motives. It’s normal to have desires and fears that cause you to spend time, energy, and money to meet someone, but they can also backfire. For example, if you can’t stand to be alone and, or you’re terribly lonely, it will drive people away like a terrible stench.
5) Save time by being more direct before meeting. For example, if he’s not your physical type at all, don’t agree to meet out of sympathy or just because he’s nice. At the same time, be realistic about your own appearance and give someone a chance if you sense there is compatibility.
6) Try dating instead of hook-ups.
7) Try (safe-sex) hook-ups or friends with benefits instead of traditional dating if you can’t stand to spend another month or more dating someone and then realize there isn’t any sexual chemistry.
8) Focus on self-improvement by exercising more and changing your diet.
9) Take a month or more off from dating.
10) Give up. Sometimes you need to step back, breath, relax, and let go. You can still date, but try not taking it as seriously and focus on having fun without a relationship agenda.
11) Wait for better timing. An experienced astrologer and numerologist who uses a comprehensive approach can outline the seasons of your love life. Some periods are better spent doing other things instead of spinning your wheels and trying to meet a good match. Otherwise, it’s like not being aware of the seasons, planting a garden in winter, and hoping in vain for results.
12) Change your perception. Try a hypnosis, past life regression, or subliminal MP3 to address the biggest personal problem you currently face with dating and meeting people, or simply to give you an edge. For example, there are MP3s for acceptance, relaxation, confidence, sense of humor, self-discipline, becoming sexier, and many more.
Copyright © 2014 Stephen Petullo
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- The 77 biggest On-line Dating Mistakes
- 17 Reasons why only 16% of singles looking for love on dating sites find a compatible, long-term relationship and how you can improve your odds.
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- How to avoid falling into the trap of wasting time searching for a fantasy partner or relationship, as promoted by most on-line dating services, and what you’re better off doing instead.
- What you must do before communicating with a potential match to save valuable time.
- What you should NEVER do before meeting face-to-face, yet most people do and then regret it!
- What you should NEVER plan for the first date, or risk being very uncomfortable!
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