Is The One a myth or reality?
The answer is, it depends how you perceive The One. Realizing the truth about the subject will help you make the most of your love life.
The One is commonly considered to be a partner who is ideal for you.
Someone who currently has a wonderful relationship may think The One is a realty.
Someone who has never had a good relationship may think The One is a myth.
Nationally syndicated sex and relationship advice columnist and author Dan Savage views The One differently:
“People, when they’re young, have this idea… ‘There’s someone out there who’s perfect for me’… ‘The One.'”
“‘The One”‘ does not fucking exist. ‘The one’ is a lie. But the beautiful part of the lie is that it’s a lie you can tell yourself. Any long-term relationship that’s successful is really a myth that two people create together … and myths are built of lies, and there’s usually some kernel of truth…”
“…That’s the only way you become ‘The One’ – it’s because somebody is willing to pretend you are. ‘The One’ that they were waiting for, ‘The One’ they wanted, their ‘One.’ Because you’re not – nobody is. No two people are perfect for each other, ever, period – No two people are 100% sexually compatible, no two people are 100% emotionally compatible, no two people want the same things. And if you can’t reconcile yourself to that, you will have no relationships that last longer than two months.”
I agree. Likewise, too many deal-breakers, like this guy has, will keep you single (not that there’s anything wrong with being single).
You also need to consider the following:
~~ While accepting that no one is perfect will strengthen a relationship, the the length of a relationship should not be your main goal. From a spiritual viewpoint, how long it lasts is not important.
~~ You can do everything right to meet a partner and maintain your relationship, but how it unfolds and the length is largely due to your love life timing, fate and karma.
~~ It’s healthier to be single than to be with someone who is not compatible.
Now that you know The One, as in the perfect partner, doesn’t exist, and that The One can be a myth or reality, depending upon your definition and perception, you can use this information to improve your love life.
Copyright © 2014 Stephen Petullo
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