14 Ways Soul Mate Myths Hurt People

Soul mate myths hurt people. You might think you’re not guilty of spreading soul mate myths, but you probably are, and it’s not really your fault.

Unfortunately, the term soul mate has been bastardized by romance novels and Hollywood for so long that the majority of people embrace soul mate myths as truth.

Edgar Cayce, one of the most respected seers and metaphysicians of the 20th century, says this about soul mates: “A soulmate is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves.”

The metaphysical definition of a soul mate is someone you’ve known before in past lives, and that connection may or may not have been romantic. Soul mates reunite to help each other, it can be in good or challenging ways, and the interaction usually results in learning and growth, which is why most souls incarnate.

It’s clear the original definition of soul mate had less to do with romance and more to do with spiritual growth. Yet romanticizing the concept is more profitable in the New Age marketplace.

Below are 14 ways soul mate myths hurt people:

1) Soul mate myths hurt teens, causing them more grief than necessary from their early dating and relationship experiences. They’re too inexperienced to realize they may not be compatible with someone at 40 or 50 whom they met at age 16, attempting to maintain a traditional relationship while going to different universities is a recipe for torture, or that they are likely destined to meet, date, and learn from many others.

2) Soul mate myths hurt people who lost a great love and assume that was their only soul mate or chance at love, thus their love life is over.

3) Soul mate myths hurt people who are meant to be single now when they put too much effort into meeting people, or try to make someone into a permanent partner who isn’t meant to be.

4) Soul mate myths hurt people who spend so much time looking for that one perfect person who will “complete” them for the rest of their lives.

5) Soul mate myths hurt people who haven’t found a soul mate relationship and think something is wrong with them.

6) Soul mate myths hurt people whose relationship didn’t last a lifetime and think they failed because of it.

7) Soul mate myths hurt people who think a “twin soul” or “twin flame” is real, project unrealistic romantic fantasies and expectations onto others, and then experience great disappointment.

8) Soul mate myths hurt people who think relationships should be more about romance than growth and learning, which also leads to great disappointment.

9) Soul mate myths hurt people who think you can “manifest” a soul mate when they are destined to be single for now.

10) Soul mate myths hurt people who waste time in long distance “relationships” with people they’ve never met face-to-face.

11) Soul mate myths hurt people who try to be their partner’s “everything” for a lifetime, which is impossible.

12) Soul mate myths hurt people who think there’s something wrong with being single.

13) Soul mate myths hurt people who assume that every romantic possibility is meant to lead to a life-long, harmonious, mutually compatible and satisfying relationship.

14) Soul mate myths hurt people who don’t understand how reincarnation, fate, and karma influences their love life, thus they stumble blindly through life and it’s easy to take on a victim mentality or conclude they aren’t worthy.

Now that you know more about how soul mate myths hurt people, you can still enjoy romance, but avoid excess romantic illusion that cases pain and suffering.

Copyright © 2015 Stephen Petullo