Hi. My name is Trina. I’m 26 and have dark hair and eyes…5’4 and a little heavy. I was going out with Brent (tall and built) for 5 months. Recently he broke up with me. We never had an argument or anything. I thought he was the love of my life. Am I not attractive enough? Will I ever get another try at love?
Hi Trina,
I’m sorry you experienced rejection. That’s not easy, especially when you don’t see it coming. Unfortunately, it’s part of dating and relationships and almost everyone experiences it sooner or later.
Here’s what I sense happened between you and Brent:
— You felt a strong connection to him, but he didn’t feel the same. This isn’t anyone’s fault, it’s just what is between you two.– He liked you and enjoyed spending time with you, but eventually realized that alone wasn’t enough to sustain a long-term relationship.
— You focused too much on him, how he made you feel, and what you hoped for, and not enough on yourself, the connection and what was meant to be (or not) between you two.
— Inside, you’re a strong and confident divine being, but you’re not currently expressing this, which prevents you from making your love life the best it can be (with or without a partner).
Trina, remember that attractiveness only goes so far and lasts so long. Also, it is subjective; someone who is attractive to a friend may not be to you. Everyone is different and can be attractive in their own way. Our world would be very boring if everyone was the same.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, do what you can to get your groove back, make the most of your attractive features and accept what you cannot change. Eating a healthy diet and regular exercise will do wonders for your energy level and boost confidence, which will make you radiate your inner light and appear more attractive.
What’s more important than appearance in dating and relationships:
Beyond the appearances, facades, and personas, is the connection, the energy between you and another person. Every connection between you and another person is different. It was there before you met, it’s not always easy to perceive initially, and it may or may not be conducive to what you want.
The connection will enhance or diminish the friendship or relationship, you cannot change it overnight, but you can react in a positive way to it.
Sometimes what’s naturally there, the good and bad, will come as a shock when the illusion fades and the real connection surfaces after weeks, months, or years.
That’s why, when dating, it’s best to step back from your hopes and emotions (easier said than done) and pay attention to how things naturally unfold.
You will have another try at love. In the meantime, appreciate and express your inner beauty.
Copyright © 2015 Stephen Petullo
