Many people perceive long-term relationships as the ultimate for love life success. It would be nice if all relationships were harmonious and lasted forever like they do in fairy-tales, but they don’t, and it’s not always a bad thing.
A long-term, mutually compatible relationship in which both partners truly feel fulfilled is not as common as you might think, once you look beneath the surface of all those seemingly blissful unions.
There are two hidden reasons relationships don’t last, components that you cannot control:
Karma is not about punishment, but cause and effect. Whatever you think, do, and say creates circumstances for your current life and even more for your future lives. But if you don’t have a long-term relationship, it doesn’t always mean you did something wrong in a past life.
From a spiritual perspective, long-term relationships aren’t any better than short-term relationships. In fact, sometimes short-term relationships work through more karma and result in more learning, which is the main reason for incarnating.
Contrary to conventional wisdom, you cannot control or change your destiny. Destiny is what is set into motion before you incarnate and includes the major events and people in your life. Your destiny is directly linked to your karma. If it’s your destiny to experience a harmonious, life-long relationship, your life will unfold that way.
But there’s good news if your love life is not to your liking!
You have free will to react to your life situations; you can take the high road and make the most of things, which creates positive karma for your future.
For example, you can use your free will to do all you can to improve a relationship, or focus on the positive things about being single, falling out of love, or drifting apart from a partner. You can choose to accept where you are, cherish all types of relationships, and reject the notion that you need a long-term, traditional relationship in order to feel fulfilled or be a good person.
So, the next time you hear someone boasting about how long they’ve been with her partner, be happy for her if that’s what she wants, but remind yourself that everyone’s path and perception of life is different, and a lot in life depends on karma and destiny.
Copyright © 2015 Stephen Petullo